I’m kind of new to the blog world. In my search to find like-minded bloggers, I am thankful to have stumbled across mom-blog.com. The writer, Gina, wears many hats, but the thread that links us together is that we are both moms to special needs children.
One of her latest posts, Reality Sucks, but It’s OK, is an honest glimpse into her heart. She talks about her struggles & her fears regarding her children and about “giving it up to God” despite being a self proclaimed “doubter” for most of her life. If you have a special needs kid, it is definitely worth a read.
Her post is beautifully written and the reality is, I have had so many of the same feelings. It was a post that really got my wheels turning. I jumped for my bible, looking for words of wisdom. Here are some thoughts:
Some people say that God only gives us as much as we can handle. I think this idea comes from 1 Corinthians 10:13.
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
This sounds lovely, but he’s talking about temptation, not trials. On the contrary I think that God DOES give us more than we can handle so that we will look to Him. We can’t do it alone. The apostle Paul writes:
We do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about the hardships we suffered in the province of Asia. We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life. Indeed, in our hearts we felt the sentence of death. But this happened that we might not rely on ourselves but on God, who raises the dead. 2 Corinthians 1:8-9
It is also said that there are rewards for suffering.
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.
Am I truly suffering, compared to what others go through? Maybe not. It’s been a long road, being the parent of a special needs kid… lots of doctor’s appointments, lots of explaining, lots of worrying and lots of tears. And though most days are fine, some days it does feel like suffering.
Will I receive a crown? I don’t know. But they certainly are encouraging words.
Lesson learned: I will continue to love, pray for and raise both of my kids in the best way I know how. The rest is up to God. Thanks Gina, for the inspiration to blog today.